Support for parents of autistic children
Receiving a diagnosis of Autism can be a difficult and confusing process for parents. As a teacher, tutor or educator, it is important to provide support and guidance to those parents that have just heard the news. Education Boutique's Director, Lucy Alexandra Spencer shares her three tips for teachers to build trust and support with these families during such a challenging time.
Educate yourself on autism
The first step in providing support for parents of Autistic children is developing an understanding of the condition itself. It’s important to learn about the different types of Autism, as well as the various signs and symptoms associated with each type. This will help you better recognize how to offer meaningful support when dealing with parents who have just received an Autism diagnosis for their child. You may also want to familiarize yourself with any local or national organisations that could be helpful resources for families. Remember that your remit is to enable the child to thrive in school so be incredibly mindful when suggesting a parent course or a particular strategy at home. Many parents explain feeling insulted or judged by early discussions with teachers. You don't need all the answers, just a willingness to help.
"I want you to know that this might seem a daunting journey to be embarking on, but I am committed to helping you. We might make some mistakes along the way, as every child is unique, but I'm excited to see how X progresses."
Develop an open line of communication
It’s essential that teachers create an open line of communication between themselves and the family of an Autistic child in order to ensure that everyone involved is informed about the student’s progress throughout their school experience. This includes talking openly about any challenges or successes the student may experience, as well as sharing any strategies or interventions that have been put in place to help them succeed in school. Keeping communication channels open will also allow you to get feedback from parents on what they feel is working best for their child at home, which can then be implemented into their daily routine at school. To avoid it becoming a huge time commitment, set clear communication expectations.
"I had an email string with each child's adults and explained that I would drop a quick email between 3 and 3:30pm if there was anything that needed to be communicated. Sometimes this was as short as 'great day'. This would be when I could respond to any updates they had for me too. I explained that any urgent messages should be communicated to the school office who would send them on to me."
Be patient & understanding
Finally, it’s important for teachers to remain patient and understanding when working with families who have recently received an Autism diagnosis for their child. This can be a difficult and emotional time for these families, so it’s important to make sure they know you are there to listen and provide support whenever needed. There may be a time when a parent speaks to you in an abrupt manner or makes a decision that you don't necessarily think was best for the child. Always remember that this isn't personal.
Make sure they feel comfortable coming forward with questions or concerns - even if they seem trivial - so that you can work together towards providing the best educational experience possible for their child.
Supporting parents who have just received an Autism diagnosis for their child requires patience, understanding, and education on the part of teachers and SENCOs alike. By following these three tips – educating yourself on autism, establishing an open line of communication between yourself and the family, and being patient & understanding – teachers can ensure that these families receive all the support they need during this challenging transition period in their lives.
About the author
Lucy Alexandra Spencer
Lucy Alexandra Spencer, a qualified teacher turned private tutor, established Education Boutique with the aim of making a global impact on bespoke alternative education. Her tutoring took her around the world in a form of education known as world schooling - the growth of Education Boutique earnt her the title of Female Entrepreneur of the Year at the Thames Valley Awards 2021. Notably, Education Boutique joined the Eteach team in the same year, becoming the specialist tutoring and alternative provision arm of The Eteach Group. In 2024, Lucy’s role progressed to take on the responsibility of managing Eteach People, with a focus on SEN and leadership recruitment.
